Daily chores and help around the house seem to be a source of arguments at our house so I have been looking for ways to take the complaining out of the equation. I found a quote by Elder Ballard about family councils that has given me a way to try to change the way we run our family.
He said,“A council is when parents let their children help solve the problem.
And when everyone agrees to a solution, everyone will have ownership of
the problem. If I tell the family, ‘You go out and pull the weeds,’
there may be complaining or hurt feelings. But if I can help them to
feel, ‘We all decided this,’ then the family council is truly working.
Before you know it, family members will be organizing themselves,
saying, ‘You do this and I’ll do that.’ That’s the power of a council.”
We were trying to tell our children what they needed to do to help around the house instead of asking them to help us solve the problems that needed to be done. We have to give our children the opportunity to solve problems and feel apart of the decision making. It is important for our children to feel like they are needed and that their opinions are important to us. This will help them when they leave home to serve missions, go to college, or even get married. The most important lessons they will learn are within the walls of our homes.
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