“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be married?”

“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be married?”  

In an article by Irene Eubanks, she shares how she was able to overcome pride in her marriage before it destroyed her relationship with her husband.  It is so easy for us to become frustrated with our spouse especially when we are first married and learning all of their little quirks and habits.  I love this lesson she shares about overcoming our natural man.

In the beginning of my marriage, even until recently, I thought I wanted to always be right.  My husband will be the first to apologize even when he knows it's not his fault.  He has already masted this question and the answer is obvious for him, he wants to be married.  I often wonder why it is so hard for me to admit when I'm wrong when it is so easy for him.  The answer to that is not so obvious. 

He is an example to me each time he opens his mouth to speak.  Negative words do not come from his mouth, nor will he ever find faults in me, but he is always happy to point out the good things about me and things he loves.  Over the years, his attitude has rubbed off on me and I have begun to look at the good things in others and let go of the negative.  It has become easier for me to admit when I am wrong.

I am grateful for the lessons he has taught me about being a good spouse and person.